Why Engage the Senses in Intimacy?

TUNING IN to YOUR SENSES | 9.10.23

I often explain to my couples clients that those “traditional” gifts to your lovers aren’t actually trite…

A box of chocolates engages your taste and smell. A dozen roses brings your sight, smell, and even touch online. Reading a card aloud is a pleasure for the ears. (Are you old enough to remember making your lover a mix tape? It’s totally dope to engage a loved one’s sense of hearing!)

There’s a good reason these items are what we give our lovers! Sensory awareness can be heart-opening! It allows individuals to connect with their emotions, surroundings, and others on a deeper level.

The Why and the How…

1) Connection to the Present Moment: Engaging the senses encourages individuals to be fully present, which can lead to a deeper connection with the here and now. When you're fully engaged with your senses, you're less likely to dwell on the past or worry about the future, making it easier to open your heart.

2) Mind-Body Connection: Sensory awareness helps you become more in tune with your body. This heightened awareness can lead to better self-care and self-love — essential components of an open heart.

3) Deepening Relationships: Paying attention to your senses in the presence of others can lead to more profound and meaningful connections. It can help you listen more attentively, notice subtle cues in body language, and foster deeper emotional bonds.

4) Appreciation for Beauty: Focusing on your senses allows you to fully appreciate the beauty in the world around you. Recognizing and savoring these moments can open your heart to feelings of awe and gratitude.

5) Enhanced Creativity: Using our senses actively can stimulate creativity because you to see, hear, feel, and experience the world in new ways. Creative expression often comes from an open and receptive heart. And who couldn’t use a little creativity in bed?!

6) Spiritual Connection: Sensory awareness can be a gateway to deeper spiritual connection. Heightened sense of the sensory world can lead to a more profound connection with the universe, a higher power — or your mate!

I really could go on and on… but I’ll leave it for now.

If you want some practice at connecting via your senses, message me to set up private coaching sessions with your partner!